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The third is focus on shortage.
If I can say I learned sth. from my oversea life and it is changed me so much, then that is it. Our Chinese people was educated in that environment that we should focus on our shortage and overcome it. Then we can get improvement. If we focus on our forte we will be pompous and stop improving.
Before I went overseas I already knew that in western country they rather praise than demeaning. But I don’t think it deeply. I think that is two different way to success. One example is I became a decent man as well. But now I understand that there is a self-fulfilling prophecy. And one can not help to focus on the shortage is a tunnel vision. We can even say that t’s a kind of mental disorder. I’d agree that focus on the shortage maybe is a efficient way when we use it in work. But when we use it in our family and judge people like that, it is totally wrong.
Now I pay a lot effort to change that. It is not easy because we used to it for many years. But after I understand it I know I have to change the way I treat my family. My daughter is shy and unconfident. The only way to improve it is to praise when I saw her every little forte.
