文化冲击2
My second daughter was born last year. This give me an experience to be a father again and push me to think how to do the right thing to bring up a new life.
This year I learned some psychology and from what I learned I recognize some methods that our Chinese used to treat children which I think it’s quite normal and correct previously. But now after I lived in Australia for 3 years and see what I saw, now I believe it’s abnormal and wrong.
First thing is treat kids tough.
Our Chinese parents quite believe the method that treat children tough is beneficial for his future. So that he can have more ability and capability. In our traditional family father’s role is a strict king. He give the kid some strict rule and treat him tough in oder to let him fit in the “real world” as soon as possible.
Yes of course, the competition in China is quite serious and the real world is tough. But it is more important to let a young kid know he is beloved. He should know he is connected to his family and people who loves him. So that he is not longly in this tough world. He should know his family will always trust him, support him, love him unconditionally. Whether he become a successful man in the future or not.
So that when we grow up we become inarticulate and shy. Sometimes selfish and lack of emotion. This is a quite common label for Chinese. Isn’t that the direct consequence of our culture?
