看剧

近年来看的剧好像比电影都多。韩剧九回时间旅行，仁显皇后的男人，信号。美剧浩瀚无垠一二三，西部世界一二，权游八。日剧delete、不能变成野兽的我们。以及港剧金宵大厦。

韩剧真是出乎意料的好看，尤其是九回，我看过的最好的时间旅行类影视作品了，完全不会侮辱到观众的智商，让人感叹就是我自己来也未必会做的更好。

浩瀚无垠也很棒，同样是我看过最好的space opera题材。细节很到位，没什么令人出戏的破绽。举个例子，之前看星际之门，看到他们穿越到若干光年外的星系还能跟地球实时通信，立刻就索然无味了。而浩瀚无垠里，大家基本都是用视频邮件方式通讯，因为地、月、火星、小行星带都有若干光秒的距离，实时通讯是不可能的。做科幻，至少要不能有那么明显的硬伤吧。

金宵大厦

上周连续每天刷4集，刷完了金宵大厦。

不错的港剧，有认真的编故事和表演，也是我喜欢的题材。

两集一个单元，一共20集10个单元。其中前半part比较好，娃，婴及广受赞誉的鸦乌。后半part有点奇幻色彩不足，眼，金丁，美魔女完全不惊悚的，只有simone还有点意思。

发现香港不知名的演员里还是有些很努力的人。除了两位首次担纲的主演，娃，婴，鸦乌，金丁，Simone的演员也都很亮眼。一些故事单元的台词也写的认真不敷衍，尤其第一单元主线和鸦乌。所以整体还不错。

Go Mavs!

东契奇威武！把一场普通常规赛打成了进球集锦啊！这赛季小牛的球也太好看了吧！

除了怎么吹也不嫌多的东契奇。波神还在慢慢复苏，看着很不稳但也23分。克莱伯的防守真是惊艳，防出对方很多进攻犯规且贡献3个大帽，杰克逊和小库里进攻高效。

新赛季终于开始了！

新赛季开始！

真是期待啊！上次这么期待看常规赛是是什么时候了？久远的没印象了，大概还是蒙塔埃利斯时期吧。

Xbox one

最近娃很迷naruto，想给她买个ultimate ninja storm 4，搜了下发现Xbox one版本的好便宜啊，进而看Xbox one主机也好便宜啊。

于是就入了一台，初代机型，带的游戏不错，red dead redemption 2, rise of tomb raider, witcher 3, call of duty. 再买个全新s版手柄，全下来180，真是便宜到发止啊。

果然是玩游戏的时间久了就会集齐全平台。那话怎么说来着，小孩子才做选择题，作为成年人…

super cub

Honda的摩托车真是让人看到眼里就拔不出来。

面世至今累计销售一亿辆。

几乎开不坏的四冲程发动机。

2升油能开180km。

为了这么漂亮的车，也得去考个摩托车驾照啊。

文化冲击4

The third is focus on shortage.

If I can say I learned sth. from my oversea life and it is changed me so much, then that is it. Our Chinese people was educated in that environment that we should focus on our shortage and overcome it. Then we can get improvement. If we focus on our forte we will be pompous and stop improving.

Before I went overseas I already knew that in western country they rather praise than demeaning. But I don’t think it deeply. I think that is two different way to success. One example is I became a decent man as well. But now I understand that there is a self-fulfilling prophecy. And one can not help to focus on the shortage is a tunnel vision. We can even say that t’s a kind of mental disorder. I’d agree that focus on the shortage maybe is a efficient way when we use it in work. But when we use it in our family and judge people like that, it is totally wrong.

Now I pay a lot effort to change that. It is not easy because we used to it for many years. But after I understand it I know I have to change the way I treat my family. My daughter is shy and unconfident. The only way to improve it is to praise when I saw her every little forte.

文化冲击3

Second thing is control.

Chinese parents role rather like a god to their child but friend. I hate it at the beginning so I never do that to my child. But it is quite common in Chinese traditional culture that children should unconditionally obey their parents order. That is the spirit of “孝顺”.

Now I know “孝顺” is a bullshit. It bend the relationship between child and parent and hurt them both. This kind of symbiosis is insane. But I believe most Chinese still think it is a good thing nowadays. Parent may think they control their children for children’s benefit. It is correct if he is under 3 years old. But most parent may used to the same way they control their kid even if the kid has already grow up. For me, I saw my parents in law always suggest my wife she should wear more or less, she should carry an umbrella, she should eat one more bowl of rice. And what make me can not understand is she never fight back and sometimes she seems appreciate it!

Yes, that is quite common in China. Parents control their adult children. That’s why we have so many conflicting between the generations. I saw seldom parents can control themselves not to cross the boundary. But I think my parents did pretty good. That why I am quit clear where the boundary is and can not stand anyone break into my territory.

文化冲击2

My second daughter was born last year. This give me an experience to be a father again and push me to think how to do the right thing to bring up a new life.

This year I learned some psychology and from what I learned I recognize some methods that our Chinese used to treat children which I think it’s quite normal and correct previously. But now after I lived in Australia for 3 years and see what I saw, now I believe it’s abnormal and wrong.

First thing is treat kids tough.

Our Chinese parents quite believe the method that treat children tough is beneficial for his future. So that he can have more ability and capability. In our traditional family father’s role is a strict king. He give the kid some strict rule and treat him tough in oder to let him fit in the “real world” as soon as possible.

Yes of course, the competition in China is quite serious and the real world is tough. But it is more important to let a young kid know he is beloved. He should know he is connected to his family and people who loves him. So that he is not longly in this tough world. He should know his family will always trust him, support him, love him unconditionally. Whether he become a successful man in the future or not.

So that when we grow up we become inarticulate and shy. Sometimes selfish and lack of emotion. This is a quite common label for Chinese. Isn’t that the direct consequence of our culture?

转推，我对香港近期事件的看法与此推同

很多年前，我读到村上说“我永远站在鸡蛋这一边”，颇不以为然，心想：还是要讲对错的吧。

然后有一天，我在路上骑着自行车，突然这句话在我脑中浮现：因为…我是一只鸡蛋啊！

写出来就很寻常；可想到的那一刻，每个字都在脑袋里作响。

回家找到原文，发现村上早已说过了。

但不能理解时，就看不见。

之所以想到这件旧事，因为有人给我私信表达失望：真想不到你这么双标；为什么不谴责暴徒，只单方面谴责警察暴力？

然后给我发up主共青团中央的视频。

（虽然我也很奇怪，为什么当一个政权在努力消灭一切反对声音的时候，还是有人认为它的宣传是可信赖的。）

显而易见，在这种时候，解释是没有用的。

但还是有一点很个人的感触，就是：

意识到自己是一个鸡蛋，这种认知决计无法靠三言两语传达。村上不能，我也不能。

而无论高墙多么强大，发出的声音多么喧嚣，我还是希望有人能倾听、呵护自己内心那个独一无二的灵魂。

因为我是一个鸡蛋。只能在其他的鸡蛋那里找到安慰和支持。